We were privileged to be interviewed on Southern Seminary's campus yesterday by Crossway, the publisher of Dr. Russell Moore's book Adopted for Life. I had forgotten that this weekend was also the Adopting for Life Conference on campus. We didn't go, but I hope to be able to catch up on some of the speakers here.
We had two conversations before our interview that really struck me. One was with a girl from Boyce College who checked us in. She was adopted from the Philippines when she was about 3 years old. And she shared with us that she had an identity crisis around age 9. Her parents took her back to the Philippines just before she graduated high school and she was able to meet her birth parents. She said she was saddened to see their great poverty, but she was even more moved by how lost they were without Jesus Christ as their Savior. She told us that she is so glad she went, because now she knows for certain that her identity is found in Christ and not in her bloodline. What a sweet testimony!!
We were also able to catch up with some new friends who just brought home a 2 year old boy from Ethiopia. We asked how he was doing, and they said he's having some trouble adjusting. He has bouts of terror that can last for hours, which is very unusual for such a calm, happy boy. It was good for me to hear, because I want to be realistic and sensitive in thinking about our kids' transition too. They are about to be taken from everything they know -- the people, the cribs, the smells, the routine. And there will naturally be some grief over all those losses.
The whole conversation brought to mind a part of Dr. Moore's book that has stuck with me. He describes the day when he and his wife took their one year old adopted sons from the orphanage they had been in for their whole lives up to that point: "We walked out into the sunlight, to the terror of the two boys. They'd never seen the sunlight, and they'd never felt the wind. They had never heard the sound of a car door slamming or felt like they were being carried along a road at 100 miles an hour. I noticed that they were shaking and reaching back to the orphanage in the distance. I whispered, 'That place is a pit! If only you knew what's waiting for you...' But all they knew was the orphanage. It was squalid, but they had no other reference point. It was home."
It's really interesting to think about how much we can relate. How often do we who have been brought into the light and life of Jesus tend to reach back toward the darkness and deceptiveness of sin? And how ridiculous is it when we do that?? Dr. Moore goes on to say, "We get too comfortable with this orphanage universe...We're content with the world we know...'I know you think this terrestrial orphanage is home,' our Father tell us, 'but it's a pit compared to home.'"
May we learn more and more, along with our sweet children, to treasure Christ above all things and to find our identity in Him.