Our older kids have hit a turning point in what they're able to enjoy reading (listening to) lately, and it's been lots of fun!
We'd worked our way up to reading things that are a little longer, like R.C. Sproul's books The Prince's Poison Cup and The Priest with Dirty Clothes, both great stories. Then a couple of months ago friends encouraged us that they might be ready for The Pilgrim's Progress. They recommended starting out by showing them an animated version of Pilgrims Progress that's free on youtube. It's split up into 7 parts, and the whole thing together is something like an hour long. I skipped the part with Apollyon, at our friends' suggestion, because it seemed too scary. But the rest was good and it definitely kept their attention. They had lots of great questions, and it was such a joy to talk through it with them. Then since they were familiar with it and had a visual in their minds, I read them a modern translation of Pilgrim's Progress afterward (not a children's version), skipping some parts that describe landscape etc. so they'd stick with me. They loved it! It was an introduction for them to the idea that Christianity is a narrow road that's often difficult, but it is the only road that leads to life.
After that, I read the Narnia series to them, which they also LOVED. They talked about it all day long, and still like to pretend to be some of the main characters from it. Since then we've gone through some stories from The Children's Treasury of Virtues by William Bennett, like Martin Luther King Jr., Jackie Robinson, Helen Keller, Neil Armstrong, The Knights of the Silver Shield, The Minotaur, and St. George and the Dragon. We've also sometimes made up stories together (sometimes under a blanket tent with flashlights) and it's so fun to hear their imaginations at work!
My parents got them each a Torchlighters Heroes of the Faith DVD for Christmas this year. They're 30 minutes each and really excellent. Most are about martyrs of the faith, but they're not overly scary even at the death scene. They've been great for conversation with our kids! We have Perpetua and William Tyndale. There are 12 altogether, lots to choose from, and they're each about $10 on amazon.
Aside from books and videos that help shape their worldview and understanding of the Lord, we've also been reading more library books that go along with their preschool curriculum. This past week I've read them some of the Cat in the Hat Learning Library books like Is a Camel a Mammal and Miles and Miles of Reptiles.
I'm so glad the kids love reading as much as I do, and hope some of the things that have come recommended to us will be a blessing to your families too!
February 22, 2014
February 3, 2014
In Adoption, Does Race Matter?
A great article in the New York Times from Dr. Moore on racism and white families adopting black children.
In Adoption Placements, There is No Room for Racism
In Adoption Placements, There is No Room for Racism
December 6, 2013
Worship music
Lately I've been feeling especially thankful for a husband that's a worship pastor, and I thought sharing a few of the songs I love to listen to might be a blessing to some of you. Hope they introduce you to some new music and musicians, and most importantly that they lift your heart in praise to our great God!
God You Are My God - Vertical Church
Arise, Shine, For Your Light Has Come - Jered McKenna
Always - Kristian Stanfill
Holy - Matt Redman
We are the Body - The Church at Brook Hills
Come Thou Almighty King - The Church at Brook Hills
Sovereign Over Us - Aaron Keyes
A Day of Glory - Austin Stone Worship (free download of the whole album here)
It is Finished - Matt Papa
The Ocean - Matt Papa
Humble - Audrey Assad
I Shall Not Want - Audrey Assad
The Perfect Wisdom of Our God - Keith and Kristyn Getty
Only the Blood - The Village Church
His Glory Appears - Darlene Zschech
Cornerstone - Hillsong
Christ is Enough - Hillsong
Emmanuel - JJ Heller
All Creatures of our God and King - Sovereign Grace
We also love love love the Rizers. They put scripture to song for kids. Super cool stuff, you can check out some of it here.
God You Are My God - Vertical Church
Arise, Shine, For Your Light Has Come - Jered McKenna
Always - Kristian Stanfill
Holy - Matt Redman
We are the Body - The Church at Brook Hills
Come Thou Almighty King - The Church at Brook Hills
Sovereign Over Us - Aaron Keyes
A Day of Glory - Austin Stone Worship (free download of the whole album here)
It is Finished - Matt Papa
The Ocean - Matt Papa
Humble - Audrey Assad
I Shall Not Want - Audrey Assad
The Perfect Wisdom of Our God - Keith and Kristyn Getty
Only the Blood - The Village Church
His Glory Appears - Darlene Zschech
Cornerstone - Hillsong
Christ is Enough - Hillsong
Emmanuel - JJ Heller
All Creatures of our God and King - Sovereign Grace
We also love love love the Rizers. They put scripture to song for kids. Super cool stuff, you can check out some of it here.
November 25, 2013
Growing our Family
Our older kids have been so wonderful with their baby sister. It's been a joy and an answer to prayer that they haven't struggled with jealousy. They adore her and love to show her affection. It's very sweet to see how readily they've welcomed her into our family.
More than once a day, our sweet son brings up his brother by name (a name we've talked about using). His Sunday School teachers tell me that he asks them to pray for his brother every week. He has counted the chairs at our table and assures me that there's room for his brother. When he outgrows clothes or shoes, he lets me know that they can be for his brother. He has it all figured out about where in the car he will sit (we'll switch seats around so he can be next to him, of course). I've written down so many funny comments he's made. Here are a few:
Me: "Someone is coming to visit us today from the adoption agency to talk about your baby sister, to see if she's doing well with our family."
Big Brother: "Could you ask someone to come talk about my baby brother too?"
Me: "I love you two and your sister and daddy so much!"
Big Brother: (pause) "I hope I have a baby brother."
And probably my favorite...I can relate to his desire. Even though baby girl is only 3 months old, if money was no object I'd be eager to move forward more quickly too. My heart has been a little heavy lately with how expensive adoption is, and how costly it is to grow our family. Our desire is to have more children, and it will definitely be a wonderful thing to see how God will provide financially to make that happen, if it is His will.
He told me that in Sunday School his teachers were telling the story about Judas and the 30 pieces of silver. They asked him what he would spend the money on if he had it, and he said he would use it to adopt his baby brother. Words fail me!
If you think of it, will you join my son and I in praying that God will provide for us to bring another baby home soon? We trust that God will wisely decide the gender for us.
Crisis Pregnancy Centers
My love for Christian crisis pregnancy centers increases as I learn more about them. The adoption of our newborn daughter was through an agency that's part of a wonderful, gospel-centered pregnancy help medical clinic called Life Choices. They're doing excellent work, and it's such a blessing to have found them.
One thing I've been struck by is how busy our agency is. When we were in Memphis for our daughter's birth, there was another adoptive family that was there to welcome a daughter that had been born the day before. It seems like every time I talk to our contact at the agency she has plans to be at the hospital for more little ones that are due to be born. Some birth mothers choose a family to adopt their babies, and some birth mothers choose to parent. Life Choices is a great support and help either way.
I want to be careful to protect our little girl's story and her birth mother's privacy, and I also want to share at least a little bit about what a beautiful thing domestic adoption is to be a part of. We are so very encouraged by the ways that the birth mother counselors have come alongside our daughter's birth mother and genuinely love her. They were in contact with her almost daily for much of the second half of her pregnancy and they went above and beyond to help her in a number of ways. She even requested that they be in the delivery room with her because of the level of trust and friendship she felt for them. And the counseling for birth mothers continues indefinitely, even after a baby has been placed with an adoptive family.
The women's ministry at our church recently went to a local Christian crisis pregnancy center for a Saturday work day, and it was so encouraging to hear about their ministry too. One thing they shared that stood out to me was that they see about 150 new women each month. That's a lot! This crisis pregnancy center, like Life Choices, has lots of Bible and Biblical parenting classes that expecting mommies can take in order to earn "bucks" that they can spend on baby items that have been donated to the center. It's a wonderful way to educate women and help meet their practical needs.
One thing I've been struck by is how busy our agency is. When we were in Memphis for our daughter's birth, there was another adoptive family that was there to welcome a daughter that had been born the day before. It seems like every time I talk to our contact at the agency she has plans to be at the hospital for more little ones that are due to be born. Some birth mothers choose a family to adopt their babies, and some birth mothers choose to parent. Life Choices is a great support and help either way.
I want to be careful to protect our little girl's story and her birth mother's privacy, and I also want to share at least a little bit about what a beautiful thing domestic adoption is to be a part of. We are so very encouraged by the ways that the birth mother counselors have come alongside our daughter's birth mother and genuinely love her. They were in contact with her almost daily for much of the second half of her pregnancy and they went above and beyond to help her in a number of ways. She even requested that they be in the delivery room with her because of the level of trust and friendship she felt for them. And the counseling for birth mothers continues indefinitely, even after a baby has been placed with an adoptive family.
The women's ministry at our church recently went to a local Christian crisis pregnancy center for a Saturday work day, and it was so encouraging to hear about their ministry too. One thing they shared that stood out to me was that they see about 150 new women each month. That's a lot! This crisis pregnancy center, like Life Choices, has lots of Bible and Biblical parenting classes that expecting mommies can take in order to earn "bucks" that they can spend on baby items that have been donated to the center. It's a wonderful way to educate women and help meet their practical needs.
September 28, 2013
Family of Five
We can't share pictures or too many details in publicly accessible places online for a few months while the adoption court process is still finalizing... but suffice it to say that for the past month we have been enjoying being a family of FIVE! God has been so kind to us. If you haven't seen our new little one yet, feel free to comment or send me an email and I'd love to share pictures!
Our resident Hebrew scholar says that baby girl's name means "Who is like the Lord God," and I love this passage of Scripture in relationship to God's work in her life in giving her to our family.
Psalm 113:5-9 Who is like the LORD our God, who is seated on high, who looks far down on the heavens and the earth? He raises the poor from the dust and lifts the needy from the ash heap, to make them sit with princes, with the princes of his people. He gives the barren woman a home, making her the joyous mother of children. Praise the LORD!At her birth mother's request, her middle name means "He who the Lord helps," which is equally meaningful.
Psalm 126:3 The Lord has done great things for us; we are glad.
August 25, 2013
God's generosity
2 Corinthians 9:8-12 And God is able to make all grace abound to you, so that having all sufficiency in all things at all times, you may abound in every good work. As it is written,“He has distributed freely, He has given to the poor;We thank God for the many ways that He has been providing for us to adopt this baby girl! We recently found out about a Baptist retreat in the city where she'll be born that allows pastors' families to stay there for free. It's available for most of the time we expect to be there, and it will be a wonderful, comfortable place for us. We were also given an adoption grant for pastors in the Southern Baptist Convention. They were really kind to rush it so that it would be available in time for her arrival. Several friends have been generous to give gifts to help us cover the costs of the adoption. In fact, we even have friends that had a birthday party last week for their 3 year olds and they asked people to give money to help our family adopt our daughter in lieu of gifts for their sons. We are humbled and absolutely amazed at the ways God is providing for us through the generosity and kindness of others!
His righteousness endures forever.”He who supplies seed to the sower and bread for food will supply and multiply your seed for sowing and increase the harvest of your righteousness. You will be enriched in every way to be generous in every way, which through us will produce thanksgiving to God. For the ministry of this service is not only supplying the needs of the saints but is also overflowing in many thanksgivings to God.
I looked back in my journal to see when we had begun this adoption process. We made the decision on 11/28/12 to switch from adopting two children from Congo to adopting one domestically and one from Ethiopia. That is 9 months before this little girl may come, almost to the day. How great is our God?!
August 5, 2013
Big Adoption Update and Fundraiser
We've had some exciting news -- our family was selected by a birth mother that's due with a baby girl in late August! That's THIS month! We were able to talk with the birth mother through the agency, and it was a wonderful, comfortable conversation. There are a couple of things that still need to be worked through, so only time will tell if this is what the Lord has determined for us. But the birth mother feels very certain about her adoption plan and about our family. It's a real joy to hear about the ways our agency has been showing her the love of Christ and providing help for her. We'd be so grateful for your prayers for her, the baby and our family in the coming weeks in particular.
We had hoped to finish this adoption without fundraisers, but we are unexpectedly short at the end because there are extra costs related to the birth mother's situation that we weren't anticipating. If you'd like to help support our adoption, gifts can be given through the "Donate" button at the top right hand side of the blog. Your help is greatly appreciated! We're confident that God will supply all our needs according to His riches in glory in Christ Jesus (Philippians 4:19).
Thank you for joining us on this journey! Our joy is multiplied as you share it with us.
August 2, 2013
Voddie Baucham on Adoption, Abortion, and African-American Politics
Dr. Baucham, pastor of Grace Family Baptist Church in Houston, is the father of eight children. Six were adopted.
August 1, 2013
August Ethiopian Adoption Update
We are now number:
Another month with a big jump for us! It seems more and more like we will probably only be able to adopt one child from Ethiopia in order to keep our oldest two as the oldest children in our family. I'm a little disappointed, but absolutely trusting in the Lord that He knows best and is doing what is right. We are so thankful for all His many blessings!
Another month with a big jump for us! It seems more and more like we will probably only be able to adopt one child from Ethiopia in order to keep our oldest two as the oldest children in our family. I'm a little disappointed, but absolutely trusting in the Lord that He knows best and is doing what is right. We are so thankful for all His many blessings!
July 28, 2013
A Domestic Adoption Story
As we await a similar exciting day, we really enjoyed this video that a friend passed along...
July 18, 2013
A Tale of Adoption Disruption
A great story of redemption in the family of Shaun Groves, Christian recording artist, here.
July 3, 2013
She Is Not Giving Up
A great post about birth mothers from the Lifeline Children's Services blog today:
Sharing the voice, love, and sacrifice of birthmothers is so important to me.
It is important to me because birthmothers are so often misunderstood and mistaken. I have been honored to walk part of this journey with many beautiful women. I have witnessed the incredible pain and determination of delivery… seen the over-flowing love of a mother’s first, long look at her child. I have watched the tear-filled goodbyes and observed the beauty of a child not leaving one family, but joining two.
Gone are the days of sedation and society’s shame induced adoption. Enter into the here and now, reflective in appropriate adoption language and the understanding that children in the adoption triad are the product of two very different, very real kinds of love.
“She put her baby up for adoption”.
Wrong. Her child is her flesh and blood. Flesh of her flesh, bone of her bone; not simply a picture or figurine on her shelf of life or an auction item up for bids. She is not “putting up” anything. She is making a plan. She is putting her child above every ache and cry in her body screaming, “mine, mine, mine”. She is recognizing that to be a parent is so much more than “keeping” a child. Parenting is every second, every day, financial, emotional, spiritual, physical, loving, providing, learning, growing, giving, and surviving. Her child becomes engrained in her very heart and soul, her very being and breath. With empty, aching arms she chooses to trust her instinct and wisdom and make an incredibly difficult choice. This is one example of the selfless, loving strength of a mother.
“I could never give up my baby”.
This phrase is the hardest for me to hear. She is not giving up, giving away, or giving in. She is thinking of this beautiful tiny life for his or her entire life. She is saying:
“You are worth it to me- I am giving you everything I want you to have. It is a forever family. It is a mom and a dad who prayed for you and waited for you and loves you SO much. They are going to keep me up to date on how you are and who you are. You will always be a part of me.”
She is not giving up.
Women who choose adoption are not unfit mothers. They are not too young, not drug addicts, not unloving or doomed to a life full of regret. There are definitely ups and downs, grief and pain, and our hope and our heart is to see wholeness, forgiveness, and victory encounter their lives. Adoption is not the right choice for everyone, but birthparents who do choose adoption should be respected and valued.
Please take a moment to watch our birthmother video, and hear the testimonies of women who have chosen life and chosen adoption for all the right reasons: CLICK HERE
Michelle Staab, Birthmother Counselor
July 1, 2013
More Movement This Month
Today we were emailed our new waiting list number for our Ethiopian adoption. This month we had the biggest jump so far! We're excited and thankful for progress, and curious to see all that God has in store for our family. Our place in line right now is:
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